Someone is Angry. Very Angry.
Got it from the Forum section in Utusan Malaysia. Aku rasa doktor yang tulis ni dah lama dah nak luah perasaan dia. Pasal budak medic oversea yg pernah komen dalam ruangan ni jugak several days ago tu, aku rasa memang dia patut keep his mouth shut. Sebab walaupun dia tu konon struggle dgn studies, tapi studying to become a doctor and working as a doctor are two very very different things! Lagi satu, the fact yg government benarkan doktor buat locum…I don’t think it will change anything. You know why? Why would the doctors want to declare yg diorang buat locum? Kang apa2 jadi mulala dikaitkan dengan locum walapun locum tu sebenarnya gi klinik kemudian tidur sementara menunggu pesakit. Pastu kena bayar income tax, hahaha!
Maybe orang ramai cakap doktor2 ni banyak songeh and banyak demand (eleh cikgu2 lagi banyak demand hapa!) After aku tengok sendiri laki aku and kawan2 di kerja kat hospital, baru aku tahu betapa teruknya kerja doktor ni. Ada kawan2 aku yg memang takde life kecuali gi hospital, balik rumah tido. Nak makan pun tak larat. Ada yang berkejar till tak sempat nak solat (orang tu bukan jenis yang tinggal solat), ada yang turun 8 kg in the first 2 weeks masuk kerja. My sister quit being a doctor after several months sebab alahan pregnancy dia teruk, dia ambik cuti tahunan sampai habis and masa dia nak ambik cuti tanpa gaji, boss dia tak bagi. So dia quit and housemanship yg dia dah buat beberapa bulan tu kira ‘burnt’. Pastu dia apply balik kerja, tapi kena interview balik semula and kena marah kaw-kaw dengan sorang Dato’ andartu yang tak paham apa itu alahan masa pregnancy sebab dia sendiri tak pernah kawin and mengandung. And ada sorang kawan aku actually quit this profession for good.
Semalam aku gi hospital sebab ada appointment, tunggu hampir 2 jam and was informed that the doctor was not available sebab dia kena masuk OT. Aku bengang giler, rasa sungguh buang masa. Tapi nak buat macam mana? Doktor tak cukup, ada kes orang lain yg lebih emergency dari aku. At least aku boleh set another appointment and datang balik, tapi kalau makcik pakcik yang dah tua, sakit pulak tu, datang dari jauh naik bas… kesian… Dahlah diorang kena tunggu bas sejak pagi buta lagi, habis duit lagi. Nak salahkan sapa? Aku lebih suka salahkan kerajaan.
Nasib baik aku tak jadi doktor…
Doktor melokum tidak jejas khidmat di hospital
SUDAH lama saya menyimpan perasaan meluap-luap terhadap mereka yang
membantah doktor kerajaan bekerja sambilan di klinik dan hospital
swasta pada hari dan waktu tidak bekerja (lokum).
Di sini, saya ingin menyangkal telahan murahan yang dilemparkan oleh
Presiden Persatuan Pengguna Pulau Pinang, S.M. Mohamed Idris (Forum, 27
Mac 2005).
Beliau kononnya amat terkejut kerana kerajaan meneruskan langkah untuk membenarkan para doktor bekerja lokum.
Soalan saya yang pertama ialah adakah tatkala beliau mengetahui akan
hal ini maka tekanan darahnya turun naik secara mendadak atau
jantungnya berhenti berdenyut buat seketika?
Kedua, beliau ada mengemukakan soalan yang berbunyi ‘‘Bagaimana
doktor kerajaan boleh berlaku adil kepada pesakit serta diri mereka
sendiri jika memikul tanggungjawab tambahan di klinik swasta?’’
Adakah beliau beranggapan bahawa kami yang telah tamat ‘melokum’ di
sesebuah klinik swasta akan terbawa-bawa kes pesakit di klinik swasta
ke hospital kerajaan lalu menyebabkan kami akan tersalah diagnosis dan
seterusnya tersalah memberi rawatan?
Jika itulah yang beliau fikirkan, saya amat bersimpati dengan ‘penyakit’ yang beliau alami itu.
Sangat mustahil jika dikatakan kami terkeliru antara kes yang kami lihat di hospital dengan kes yang kami lihat semasa lokum.
Andai kata kami tidak tahu sesuatu perkara, maka kami akan berbincang sesama sendiri malah akan merujuk kes itu kepada pakar.
Namun andai kata berlaku juga kesilapan, itu adalah soal kedua yang akan diselesaikan dengan kaedah lain.
Saya begitu hairan bagaimana S.M. Idris boleh mengeluarkan kenyataan
yang berbunyi ‘‘mereka tidak akan mampu memberi sepenuh perhatian
kepada pesakit di hospital kerajaan kerana perhatian dan tenaga mereka
akan dibahagikan.’’
Apakah S.M. Mohamed fikir kami melokum sambil bertugas di hospital
pada masa yang sama? Ini menggambarkan seolah-olah ada di antara kami
yang berkejaran (ulang-alik) dari hospital dan klinik tempat melokum
yang berkemungkinan terletak di sebelah hospital.
Saya sedar bahawa beliau dan orang awam yang lain mahu luahkan
kekhuatiran mereka tentang doktor-doktor yang keletihan dan kurang
tumpuan ketika bertugas di hospital kerajaan andai kata dibenarkan
melokum di klinik swasta.
Percayalah, kami dan mereka yang keletihan itu bukanlah disebabkan
lokum tetapi disebabkan on-call tanpa tidur mahupun rehat kerana
merawat pesakit seharian sebelumnya.
Bolehkah S.M. Idris berikan bukti bahawa terdapat doktor yang
melokum hingga tidak cukup tidur dan keletihan di hospital kerajaan
pada esok paginya?
Bukan setakat melokum berjam-jam, malah nak lepak lama-lama dengan
kawan-kawan pun kami tidak berani kerana takut ‘lalok’ pada esok hari.
Andai kata kami ingin melokum berjam-jam, kami akan pastikan
keesokan adalah hari cuti atau paling kurang bertugas syif
petang/malam.
Bagi kami, berehat selepas kepenatan bekerja di hospital adalah lebih berharga daripada wang ringgit hasil lokum tanpa rehat.
Kalau benar S.M. Idris begitu prihatin tentang kecergasan kami
ketika bertugas di hospital, maka berikanlah saranan yang bernas kepada
Menteri Kesihatan agar kami tetap cergas selepas on-call.
Beliau perlu tarik balik kenyataan yang berbunyi ‘‘Kecenderungan
untuk memberi lebih perhatian kepada pesakit di klinik swasta mungkin
timbul dan pesakit yang tidak mampu membayar akan menderita.’’
Kenyataan itu menggambarkan seolah-olah kami pernah meminta bayaran
daripada pesakit di hospital dan pesakit yang tidak mampu membayarnya
akan menderita akibat lambat menerima rawatan. Ini menghina profesion
kami sebagai doktor kerajaan.
Kami merawat pesakit di hospital kerajaan mengikut penyakitnya dan bukan ikut kemampuan pesakit!
Seorang pakar bedah kerajaan yang seharian di bilik bedah kerana
menjalankan tugasnya tidak akan bertanya berapakah wang perolehannya
untuk hari itu sebelum beliau pulang tidur di rumah.
Saya sarankan S.M. Idris meluangkan masa sekurang-kurangnya seminggu
untuk mengikuti kehidupan harian seorang doktor yang selama ini
bersifat ‘misteri’.
Berkaitan dengan syor beliau supaya caj dinaikkan, biarlah mereka yang bergelar pesakit sahaja memberikan ulasan.
Kepada penulis yang bergelar Budak Baru Belajar dari Leeds, United
Kingdom yang turut mahu mencampuri soal lokum, cuma sedikit sahaja yang
ingin saya katakan: ‘‘Keep your mouth shut and complete your studies.’’
Berdasarkan pengalaman saya, mereka yang pernah belajar di negara
Baratlah yang paling banyak merungut tentang gaji yang sedikit di
Malaysia.
Jangan sekarang beria-ia menyebut tentang keikhlasan tapi apabila
sudah bekerja di hospital kerajaan nanti, anda akan melenting kerana
kesibukan dan kerenah birokrasi dan akhirnya anda tidak sempat hendak
melenting tentang gaji yang sedikit atau pun tidak berbaloi!
Kesimpulannya, kami para doktor sememangnya melokum untuk
menambahkan pendapatan agar tidak nampak selekeh di hospital gara-gara
tidak cukup wang untuk membeli pakaian baru dan minyak wangi.
Yang kedua, kami berpeluang membantu klinik swasta di samping
memindahkan kepakaran kami dan pada masa yang sama meluaskan pengalaman
dalam menghadapi kes-kes di klinik.
Percayalah, ada perbezaannya antara melihat kes-kes di hospital dan melihat kes-kes di klinik swasta mahupun klinik kerajaan.
Dan yakinlah bahawa kami keletihan bukanlah disebabkan lokum, tetapi
disebabkan on call atau tidak dapat tidur lena kerana demam.
Saya sendiri pernah tertidur di hadapan ibu pesakit ketika mengambil sejarah pesakit (anaknya) pada jam 5.30 pagi di wad.
Hanya doktor sahaja yang boleh memahami kerjaya doktor.
- DR. MHI,
Hospital Seberang Jaya,
Pulau Pinang.
Babyripp suka tag aku. Nampak sangat aku antara orang yg takde kerja macam dia dok buat memenda nih, hehehe!
Four (latest) jobs I’ve had:
1. housewife
2. chambering student
3. judge at a scrabbles competition
4. that’s all. masa jadi student mak aku tak bagi aku kerja daa…
Four movies I can watch over and over:
1. Bridget Jones’ Diary
2. Legally Blonde
3. Scary movies, Hot Shot movies, Spy Hard (stuff with Leslie Nielsen in it)
4. A Beautiful Mind…
Four places I’ve lived:
1. Pasir Mas, Kelantan
2. Kota Bharu
3. Kentucky (or was it Maasachusetts? - tak ingat, baru 3 tahun masa tuh)
4. KL (UM, Damansara)
Four TV shows I love:
1. Scrubs
2. Desperate Housewives
3. CSI
4. Everybody Loves Raymond
Four places I’ve vacationed:
1. LA
2. Pattaya
3. Bangkok
4. Langkawi, Genting, Cameron…u know lah
Four of my favorite dishes:
1. Mocha Mud Pie at TGI
2. Tomyam tomyam tomyam, nyum..nyum..
3. Kerabu chicken feet
4. Somtam
Four sites I visit daily:
1. a local forum.
2. hotmail and gmail
3. newspaper online - starting with Utusan
4. frens’ blogs
Four places I would rather be right now:
1. KB
2. Pulau Perhentian
3. New Zealand
4. Heaven
Four bloggers I am tagging:
1. Sue? Will u?
2. Shamila?
3. Suez?
4. Juan?
Depresi Seorang Perempuan
Aku baru baca blog Nik tadi http://landoftheunimportant.blogspot.com/
Nik tension sebab dia dah naik 3 kg since wedding. Nik, if you’re reading this, I dunno if what I’m gonna say will make u feel any better (or worse) - I’ve gained 13 kg since MY wedding!! After I got my precious Adam and stop breastfeeding, I was ‘blessed’ with all these unwanted fat. My baju dah 3 kali (or is it 5 kali?) tukar size, banyak dah kena sedekah to my sisters. Lately, baju yg aku baaru beli beberapa bulan lepas pun tak muat why? The new culprit is the contraception!! Gila sudden weight increase!! Menyesal aku ambik!
Orang lelaki kalau gemuk, orang tak cakap apa. Kalau orang perempuan yang naik badan, amboi manjang kena tegur - "eh jaga sikit badan tu nanti suami lari!" Memang byk menda orang lelaki boleh ‘lepas’. I’ve been reading a lot lately on these stuff, and found out that:
- lelaki boleh gemuk dengan senang hati. Orang perempuan dah beranak enam still orang expect dia kena kurus macam batang penyapu, tak pandai jaga badan la nanti suami lari laa (and all sorts of ‘nasihat rumahtangga’). Padahal tukang bagi nasihat tu pun takdela err ‘perfect’ mana…
- lelaki boleh tido dan bermalas-malasan kat rumah keluarga mertua dia without any judgment passed.
- hidup isteri adalah untuk memenuhi nafsu suami, tapi suami rasa dia tak perlu memenuhi tuntutan isteri (ini 18SX sikit, but it’s true, and many women are suffering this problem). Cuba kalau si isteri yg refuse layan dia, mula la bagi ayat al-Quran la hadith la…pastu siap hempas2 pintu lempar barang etc. Tau pun tension… (ni contoh aje,hehehe)
- most suami terlampau ego untuk admit and berusaha mengubati ‘masalah2 batin’ dia.
- kalau takleh pregnant sure si suami suruh bini dia gi check kat klinik, dia rasa problem takleh pregnant sure sebab perempuan.
- kalau isteri ‘tak kena’ sikit, suami selalu kawin lain. Kekadang dapat wife baik giler pun si suami still cari alasan nak pasang lagi satu.
- lelaki masa couple/tunang memang selalu mengalah and baaikk aje depan perempuan, bila dah kawin JANGAN HARAP la dia nak pujuk bini dia.
- masa couple bagi bunga la, bagi coklat la, bagi gifts laa.. bila dah kawin semua menda tu membazir la pulak.
- dah jumpa family perempuan tu, alih2 sedap ketiak dia aje cakap ‘oh saya kena ikut pilihan mak ayah saya"! Kalau dah tau tak leh kawin dgn perempuan tu, yang ko gatal sangat gi ngorat anak dara orang tu sapa suruh? Bahlol! Dahlah siap jumpa famili orang tu… (i know who can appreciate this statement 
I understand Nik’s despression. Kekadang tu I think memandangkan semua orang tanya aku tgh berisi anak no. 2 ke sebab aku dah gemuk gitu, I might as well admit it (yes I actually did that in certain occassions). At least orang stop ‘tertanya-tanya’ kenapa badan aku dah naik sampai macam tu, hehehe!!
And the suami tu yang kononnya ‘I tak kisah kalau u gemuk’ tu dah mula bukak mulut….
Dia ingat orang perempuan ni gemuk dgn rela ke? Cit.
Why I Became Quiet During Tutorials…
When I was in my third year (if tak silap), I took two elective papers during my special semester. One of the papers was the International Environmental Law, taught by Encik Azmi. One of the topics that we had to learn was about wetlands and their importance to bird migration, Ramsar Convention blaa blaa… Encik Azmi said that several wetlands have been reserved by our government (part of the Ramsar Convention) for the birds, as these birds selalu ’singgah’ at certain wetlands in Malaysia during migration. Then Encik Azmi said something about now the government had discovered satu wetland yang lebih besar ke apa, daripada a particular wetland yg burung selalu lepak. So, government reserve the other/bigger wetland utk burung2 ni.
Sepanjang Encik Azmi dok cakap pasal tu, I kept thinking about something. So, bila dia tanya "any questions?", aku angkat tangan and penuh confidently tanya "How would the birds know that they have a new wetland instead of the old one?"
Encik Azmi looked at me, probably in disbelief, and said "oh the government bagi brochures and distribute flyers to the birds saying ‘hey there’s a new place that we have reserved for you, please come!’ " sambil tu dia buat action konon2nya tengah distribute those things kat other students in my class.
That’s me, asking a very stupid yet honest question. And that’s Encik Azmi, so sarcastic yet funny at the same time. Salah ke aku tanya??
Muahaha!
Encek Azmi has done it. Again.
This is an ‘open letter’ published by the Star on 11/3/06 = Saturday. I was informed by a stranger whom I met at a err…’party’, that my Timbalan Dekan has written something that was published on the Star. The whole page and nothing but the whole page. Encik Azmi is….eehhm..have u ever watched an old movie called ‘Adik Manja’, where the man character was a teacher called Encik Azmi? Lebih kurang macam tu laa…he’s very honest, sensible, and he listens to his students. He hates politics and r*****y. I was kinda coward when it comes to asking questions in other tutotial classes, but he made it very comfortable for us, and assured us that we’d still be able to walk out of his classroom in one piece even if we asked him the stupidest question in world. I did ask a very stupid question.
But that’s another post in my blog. Read what he had to say in this daring letter to Tok Pa.
Saturday March 11, 2006
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Higher Education Minister Datuk Mustapa Mohamed
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Dear Sir,
Firstly, allow me to congratulate you on your
new posting. It must be said though that you are not to be envied, for
you are now faced with a Herculean task.
But, where are my manners? You have no idea who I am. I could be a complete nutcase.
Well, I’m an academic in a Malaysian public university. Which some
people might consider a nutcase, anyway. But I’m very proud to be an
academic.
It’s a noble profession, and it matters not that my students earn more
than me within a few years of graduating and that little children run
screaming from my hideously outdated clothes. It’s a calling to be an
academic, and I care passionately about it.
That is why I’m writing to you. You see, there is much that is wrong
with our universities and much that can be done by the Ministry to put
things right.
You may not believe that my one purpose in writing to you is the
improvement of our institutions, but let me assure you, we true
academics (as opposed to wannabe politicians in lecturers’ clothes)
don’t have hidden agendas.
Over the past few years, there has been this mantra chanted by the
Government and university leaders: “We want our universities to be
world-class universities.” Unfortunately, this mantra does not have any
explanatory notes, so we don’t really know what “world-class” means.
However, let us assume that a world-class university has the following:
Graduates who are employable, not only here but also abroad;
Academic staff who are respected worldwide;
Research and publications that are recognised by reputable international journals/publishers;
An academic programme that is recognised worldwide;
An academic atmosphere that can attract quality national and foreign students and staff.
If we accept these criteria as valid, what then can be done to achieve it?
Universities are not hampers
Universities are not rewards to be handed out. It has happened in
Terengganu and the same has been promised to Kelantan. “Vote for us and
we will give you a university.”
This may make political sense, but it does not make any academic sense.
A lot of planning is needed to ensure that the resources are sufficient
to create a university of quality.
Malaysia is not a very rich country – we can’t afford petrol subsidies,
for goodness’ sake – and we definitely can’t afford to stretch our
limited economic and intellectual resources to build universities in
such a blasé manner.
Universities are not fast-food joints
They should instead be high-class restaurants. Universities have to be
elitist in order to produce quality research and graduates.
An elitist university means that only the best candidates are taken in
as students and only the best staff are hired. Classes and exams can
then be pitched at a higher standard.
Furthermore, the resulting smaller student numbers mean seminars and
tutorials can be truly conducive to discussions, and lecturers will
have less of a teaching burden in order to concentrate on research.
This is not to say that higher education as a whole must be elitist.
There are other forms of higher education institutions that can cater
to school leavers who don’t make the cut, such as polytechnics and
community colleges.
If you love your universities, you must set them free
Academics and students must be free to think and to express themselves.
Yes, I understand that this is Malaysia and freedom is seen as a dirty
word by some, but without it, there is little hope of achieving
“world-class” universities.
Intellectualism cannot grow in a repressive atmosphere.
We all know that in this country, there are many laws that restrict our
freedom to express ourselves, but the irony is that for lecturers and
students there are additional laws levelled at them.
You must be aware of the University and University Colleges Act – that
wonderful piece of legislation designed to ensure that university
students are little more than secondary school pupils.
You may not be aware, however, of the Statutory Bodies Discipline and
Surcharge Act which affects academics who are the employees of
statutory bodies.
According to this law, we can’t say anything for or against government policy without getting ministerial permission first.
Now, this may be all right for a mathematician quietly thinking up new
formulae with which to calculate the possibility of Malaysia ever
qualifying for the World Cup.
But for social scientists, it is akin to having the Malaysian football
team play football without using their feet (which is perhaps something
that they do anyway, looking at previous results).
The simple fact of the matter is that universities should first and
foremost be the birthplace of ideas and original thought, discussion
and debate, and this can’t be achieved with such laws hung around our
necks.
And in case you’re worried that greater freedom will make our campuses
hotbeds of radicalism, please let me put your fears to rest.
The number of students in this day and age who really care about matters beyond Akademi Fantasia is very small indeed.
Most students just want to graduate and as quickly as possible get into
debt to pay for their three-bedroom flat and Proton Waja.
Universities need Mandelas
If there is one thing that Malaysian universities need, it is good
leadership. And by a good leader, I mean a Vice-Chancellor who has the
qualities of an outstanding intellectual, manager and diplomat, who can
ensure that academic principles are paramount, not political
expediency.
That promotions are given based on merit, not patronage. That students
are treated like adults, not children. And finally, that the university
is run on the highest ideals of civilisation and intellectualism, not
self-aggrandisement and base toadying.
An outstanding academic leader, someone who can efficiently organise
the place, represent the institution with dignity and command the
respect of those working under him, or her, is a rare creature indeed.
To seek out such a person, may I suggest that the search committee your predecessor was talking about be made a reality.
This search committee, however, must be independent and transparent. It
must not be hiHndered by any political agenda and must instead pick the
candidates based on ability – and ability alone. Factors such as race,
creed, gender and nationality should not be a consideration.
Perhaps we’d like to take lessons from elsewhere. Oh, before you think
I’m suggesting a “study trip” abroad (with the usual sightseeing and
cultural diversions), let me make it clear that I think the taxpayers’
money need not be wasted in such a fashion. After all, writing an
e-mail is probably all you need to do to get the necessary information.
You may wish to start with New Zealand universities. I say New Zealand
because the VC of Auckland University was recently poached by Oxford to
be its Vice-Chancellor. The first non-English VC of Oxford since, well,
since forever.
Now, that’s world-class, don’t you think? And from a country much
smaller than us where the sheep outnumber the humans. Amazing.Well
then, Sir, I think I’d best sign off now. You must have loads to do.
Oh, before I forget, if you want to lighten the workload of your
officers, may I make a last suggestion?
Why don’t you just leave the day-to-day running of the universities in
the hands of the universities? I bet the Ministry has enough on its
plate without having to decide about trivial things like professorial
promotions and the approving of leave for academics to go to
conferences and holidays overseas.
Anyway, thanks for taking the time to read my letter. Good luck with your endeavours. Until next time, I remain,
Yours sincerely,
AZMI SHAROM
Dr Azmi Sharom is an associate professor of the Law Faculty of Universiti Malaya
Pity.
http://www.mmail.com.my/pix/front_03102
Dunno whether the link will work after today. It’s on the front page of Malay Mail. A picture of a Malay woman crying and screaming at a girl "why did u take my husband?" Initially, the hubby and hs cab (he’s a cabbie) was reported missing by his wife, and when the cab was discovered they found the man at the other woman’s apartment. You can imagine the horror and disappointment that was going through the wife’s mind, and how their child had been crying every night since the father gone ‘missing’.
Even the father and brother of the husband were looking for him.
Kesiann bini dia. Suami dia konon2 pujuk, sambil hisap rokok pulak tu. Keluarga lelaki tu cakap maybe dia kena bomoh dgn betina tu. Apapun, betina tu memang tak guna, dahla dia tau lelaki tu dah ada bini and anak. Yang jantan tu pulak apahal dok ikut betina tu balik rumah dia?
Hish tak tau la aku…but I feel sick reading this.
Need to work out your brain?
Go watch Syriana.
It’s a fictional movie but it somehow seems so real and so possible. The movie tries to explain the crisis in the middle east, and how America is willing to do anything to get full control of the oil market. It also tries to explain how young Muslims are willing to commit ’suicide’ in the name of jihad. Basically, every human is nice (except for CIA and high powered Americans). We all, including the Americans themselves, became victims of this complicated and corrupted situation, all because of oil. It’s very thought provoking and brilliantly done. GSC is offering oscar movies at RM5 per ticket, go grab this chance.
But of course don’t go watch it when you are in distress, or if u don’t like this kind of movie that forces u to think. I know some of us prefer a Hindustan movie to this.
Boring Theories
Never trust your maid. Never bagi muka pada dia. Never puji dia depan2 no matter how good you think she is. Once an Indon maid, always an Indon maid. Nampak baik, tapi sebenarnya degil, keras kepala, memandai-mandai, and sudah pandai ambil kesempatan atas kebaikan ‘majikan’ dia. Eeeiii gerrrammmnyer akooo! Long story, tapi kesimpulannya seperti di atas.
Tgh buat tesis, byk kena baca pasal teori. Aku tak suka teori and philosophy (lainlah kalau scientific theories). Philosophy sounds cool and so ‘prestigious’, but I never like studying it. Tanya la budak law mana yang suka baca pasal jurisprudence??? This is something which I can never force myself to like. Kadang2 aku rasa benda tu semua macam b***s**t aje, boring gilerrrr……….!!!
Ramai member nak kawin tahun ni, boleh dikatakan tiap2 bulan dapat invitation pergi wedding. Yang mana tak dapat pergi tu, mintak maaf awal2…kalau tak leh nak kirim gift, aku kirim kad yang aku pilih dgn sungguh berhati-hati. I’m so fond of beautiful cards.
Right now I feel like nak duduk rumah and jadi surirumah aje instead of going out to work. Dok rumah, jaga anak, masak, shopping, etc. I saw some of my intelligent friends jadi stay-at-home moms. Kadang2 diaorang rasa boring jugak, tapi at least dapat jaga sendiri anak2. Lepas dah kawin ni, my priority is my son, my family, tapi once in a while it would be very nice to be able to sit down with friends and have fun. I miss those days when I was a student, but of course we all need to move on and ‘grow up’ (yeah right, more like ‘grow old’).
Is there life after marriage? Sure there is. But, whether it’s a good or a bad one, it depends.