u sacre me laa As.. hahahah :p

i mean scare.. ehehe

same goes here.. i encourage my husband to indulge in his love for cars.. masuk racetrackla, carshows, etc..etc.. but when i get the offer to go out for drinks with friends, i usually have to turn them down.. not because hubby won’t let me but because i know that i’ll keep on thinking of my little afiq at home with the maid..

Nida, I watched it too. Really interesting topic. My sis cakap kat aku, dulu dia ada problem yang sama and it almost wrecked her marriage. Alhamdulilah, due to endless heart to heart discussion with the husband, everything goes well. I totally agree with you, never ever change ourselves after the marriage. Once we lost it, we can never be happy.

Mintak2 perkara sebegini dijauhkan dari aku dan rakan2. Amin.

Hezra, sorry if I’ve managed to scare all the single women out there I guess one of the reasons there are not many women bosses around is because of this…they feel responsible to do EVERYTHING for their family. Today,I even got shocked when I saw the refill pack of Shukubutsu was empty - Nazri actually emptied the pack and pour it into the bottle! He usually asks me to do everything, including refilling the empty bottle. Even such simple task…
That’s why I think it is important to have this MoU before you get married, a pre-nuptial of your responsibilities. Dalam Islam dah laaama dah ada konsep ni in ‘taklik’, tapi ada la had2 nya.

Mus, I know how u feel. Padahal kita ni jenis hu-ha-hu-ha jugak before ada anak, seronok jumpa member, tapi asyik dok terpikir pasal anak.

Lid, Alhamdulillah your sis and hubby dah ok. This thing memang kena ada heart-to-heart discussion dengan spouse, kalau tak susah laa… Lagi2 kalau spouse tu AMBIK MUDAH perkara macam ni, siap buat lawak lagi. I hope u future husband will remain so deeply in love with you as he is now. Remember, after dah kawin there’s no turning back…

wow, very2 interesting topic and btw, u scare me laaa…
so i have to think twice, thrice before getting married.. scary siotsss…

Hahaha! I’m not discouraging anybody from getting married, I just would like to share some ‘tips’ before you girls get married. Tell him that u r not his slave but his friend, his companion, his soulmate. Pray hard dear… and hopefully your future husband will remain as romantic as he is now. Otherwise, you might be crying everytime he forgets to hold your hands in public or scold you when you are 5 minutes late for the date with your in-laws. Get ready and good luck! Muahahaha!

nida..nida.. u can be the next puan noraini!

..sampai skrg aku ingat lagik ape puan noraini ajar dan nasihatkan kita… esp waktu kita semua baru2 masuk pre law!.. not to forget.. our gender and law class…

nasihat2 yg sungguh berguna utk semua wanita zaman kini.. di zaman lelaki baik dah pupus di dunia.. :-s

lupa lak.. suggestion for ur adventure life.

..dedicate at least 2 hours a week for ur own ME-time..

pegi massage..
pegi spa..
pegi jogging..
pegi gym..

u deserve it!

muahahahahahh 1000X

what if your husband, you only see him less than 10 days in a month…for each month of ur married life? sometimes even less..and they are not even weekends.. anyone with good advice for me? appreciate it alot.. thank you!!

oppss..penambahan..so in my case pulak.. i have PLENTY of time for myself.. but limited time with husband.. so how do we go about that? tq ppl!

Sue, thanx for da suggetions. I want to kuruskan badan la, but still not sure how to do it.

Hezra, alaa…mula-mula sure rasa tension, rindu, sedih, lama2 nanti biasa la tu. Memang sedih kalau berjauhan, tapi maybe disebabkan kejarangan berjumpa tu boleh menguatkan lagi kasih sayang and cintan-cintun between the both of you.. hehehe!

nida… aku dah lama tgk oprah, byk lagi episodes camni… tuh yang aku determine dari seblum aku kawin lagi supaya takkan change into another person (unless aku decide the change is for my own self development)…. aku memang bertekad…. aku skang ni pon diet, pegi gym and swim sebab aku tanak gain weight sebab aku tgk ramai sgt kawan2 aku tak pedulik about their bodies.. tapi yang penting sekali, dont lose weight for him, because of him…. but lose weight because u deserve to be healthy and to look good.

aku juga bertekad aku takkan sayang anak aku more than my husband (ni ade lagi satu episode oprah, children taking the “love” out of the marriage)…. the priority goes: me, husband, children…. sebab we tend to give everything kat child, husband rase terabai…strain relationship and child too spoilt… episode ni vital gak aku rase….

also that is why aku takkan get pregnant until im really sure yang we are ready for it…so that tau takkan gaduh depan anak…contohnye: cam skang aku asik bug/nag him to take out the trash, i dont wanna do that in front of my child… he should know his own responsibility to take out the trash…

and hari sabtu aku… is my own day… aku nak gi shopping, kuar ngn member sampai malam ke.. tu my day… but ahad, our day….

bila aku bagi syarat2 aku seblum kawin, die bengang and kata aku tak ready nak kawin……tapi pas aku explain yg i dont want to be like typical couple yg nafsu waning after a few years…. and tak romantic dah…. baru die understand…..and supportive sebab die pun tanak end up like that…

hopefully ape yang aku usahakan ni berjaya… ni sumer gara2 oprah… go OPRAH!! and gara2 breakup dulu… sebab breakup dulu, aku sedar i deserve better for myself… sebab dulu aku asik “mengikut” je bf aku tuh….diperhambakan…

neways, hope u can sort stuff out… start slow, jom gi gym !!!

I think that’s why Oprah refuse to get married till now. Diorang takpela, tak kawin pun boleh share satu rumah etc. Kita orang Islan takleh nak buat macam tu, and only thru marriage allows us to do so.

Hahaha Elly ko tgk aku kot menyebabkan ko nak berdiet?!! Aku tak tahu kenapa, tapi lepas bersalin and stop breastfeed senang giler badan aku naik. Pasal mendahulukan hubby from anak - that’s true. Masa aku pregnant dulu aku pernah tanya hubby, if ada complication and the doctor makes u choose between me and pur baby, who would u choose? He said he’s choose me, because anak kita boleh cuba lagi utk dapatkan, tapi aku ni mana dia nak cari… terharu aku. Kadang2 ada jugak tergaduh depan anak, tapi gaduh benda2 bodoh aje la..bila anak aku nampak nanti dia datang defend aku pastu marah papa dia. Aku pun terpaksala bagitahu dia supaya jangan marah papa dia.

Nanti masuk gjai bulan ni, kalau gaji nazri dah masuk, aku nak gi beli trainer etc. Kat fakulti ada bilik gym tapi tak pernah pergi sebab takde kunci.

Thanks Elly for your story and support. Hope we can all learn something from all these comments..

wah nida.. byk sambutan post ko kali nih. =D

…something tht our mothers always forget to tell us, namely LIFE AFTER THE WEDDING!

..most people, when they get married, they only thought of the wedding day… too busy preparing for the wedding ceremony BUT tends to forget abt the life after..

..in life, u gain some.. u lose some.. up to us to make the best out of our own life.

…InsyaAllah.. dgn usaha, doa dan tawakal… everything is going to be alright. aminnnnnnn…