Is This Necessary?

Monday October 15th 2007, 3:24 am
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Read this funny entry.

I was reading Mye’s fotopages when I came across a sentence of doubt of whether she is a bad wife because she hasn’t sown a button or something on her hubby’s shirt.

Man, don’t we women feel the same way?!

Growing up we are more confined in every way compared to the guys. Here are some painful reality of being a woman in any society:

If we get married late, people will think that there’s something wrong with us and call us andartu and memilih (lagi2 kalau kita kerja professional or belajar tinggi2, habihla…), while older men who are bujang are perceived as bersaham tinggi and oh-so-eligible.

If we get divorced, they call us janda and see us as the-bad-wife-who-do-not-know-how-to-treat-her-husband-right. Kalau duda, diorang ingat sure ex-wife dia dulu is a bad wife and pernah bomohkan dia/curang dgn jantan lain/ tak bersyukur punya perempuan etc.

It’s not enough to bear your children, endure pregnancy-related problems and labour pain, and stay up every night taking care of the sick and needy child (and husband), we also have to maintain our weight and ‘kepejalan’ and look freakin’ nice for our men after 5 children. Why do you think women are so obsessed with being beautiful and the people who invented Botox are so F-ing rich??? Bila kita beli mekap, dia kata kita membazir duit melaram, kalau kita ehem ‘plain’ dia compare kita dengan kerani ofis dia yang mekap tebal 2 inci tu.

We are expected to cook, wash, clean the toilets, vacuum and mop the floor, make the beds, gi shopping (dgn duit seciput yg you guys bagi (kalau bagi la) sah-sah tak cukup then you claim we all boros), call your mother, bayar bil, tempah tiket flight/wayang/show, take care of the children (mandikan anak, basuh berak, hantar gi nursery, ambik dari nursery, bawak gi klinik, bawak gi kedai, bagi anak makan, and tidurkan anak), kutip baju kotor, lipat baju, gosok baju, buang sampah, gi dobi, ambik baju dari dobi, keep records of all appointment and wedding/birthday invitations, memorize birth dates and anniversaries, lap perabot, layan tetamu, belikan shaver and seluar dalam suami etc… ALL THESE despite working the same hours as men. While you guys come home, expect dinner to be served and watch TV/main internet all night long. Anything we say to you in between qualifies as ‘nagging’.

If your husband is having an affair (and God-forbid -if he kills the mistress later and then his affair becomes public and appears on every major newspaper - with the mistress’s photo next to YOURS), people will compare you with the mistress or the second wife and discover that the other woman is prettier and more voluptuous than you (there’s no way we can compete with age!)

So guys, please give your wives a break and take her on a surprise holiday/dinner once in a while ok?

9 Comments so far

pandai ko summarise-kan nasib seorang wanita…

tapi xleh nk salahkan lelaki tu 100% gak..
selalunya mak-mak kita sendiri yg bagik muka sgt kat anak2 lelaki. aku ader 2 org abg… I KNOW!! :-s

the sons could get away with almost everything… xyah tlg keje rumah.. xyah tlg keje dapur.. anak laki biasanya nganga mulut disuap makan.. kuar rumah 2-3 pagi dibiarkan.. :p

so, lets start the new breed of men..

for those who have son/s.. teach them from tender age the right way how to appreciate and respect women! ..the very least.. know how to sincerely say PLEASE and THANK YOU..

Comment by -sue 10.16.07 @ 5:56 am

Read this : Walirrijaali alaihinna darajah. Maksudnya : Dan bagi lelaki ke atas kaum wanita satu darjat.

Al gharadhul asmaa liwujuudil insaan lil ibaadah.
Maksudnya : Tujuan utama manusia dijadikan di atas muka bumi ini adalah untuk beribadah.

Conclusion : Segala kepayahan wanita untuk membantu keluarga ( Read : Lelaki )adalah baginya pahala.

Comment by Ken 10.21.07 @ 12:25 am

One thing for sure that guys can’t with stand when he looks his luv ones tears..hi3

Comment by S H Y fiq 10.23.07 @ 12:01 am

I don’t think women are really pissed off with the idea of having to do the chores and taking care of our family, we still love our guys to bits but we do appreciate being appreciated for what we did, once in a while. That’s why ‘thank-you’ and ‘please’ as Sue said are welcomed….
I believe we all are created equally and are not born into this world for the sole purpose of serving the other sex….

And don’t call me a feminist just because of this

Comment by Asnida 10.23.07 @ 5:32 am

the keyword in this case is ‘perception’. dari zaman mak2, nenek2 apatah lagi makmertua2….. itu la kerja nye jadik ‘isteri’. Mujur la skarang dah moden sikit….tak de la suami2 (mcm staff2 senior kat opis) dok doa depa mati dulu sbb takut nanti tak de saper nak kasi depa makan/buatkan kopi (agaknya sbb skarang dah pandai carik kedai mamak kot?). ish ish ish.., that bad huh how husbands really rely on their wives? hehe…

Comment by Mye 10.30.07 @ 7:11 am

I believe this is the kind of topic where we guys should just stay silent, magically close our ears and enjoy a cup of tea and smoke, out side the house, watching the stars, and deep in our heart curse lovingly our dad for not telling us about ‘this’ aspect of marriage life. Ahaks!

Well, my son will gonna have to experience the same thing then! Hahahahahaha!!

Comment by bluesyworms 10.31.07 @ 4:46 am

Tercipta engkau dari rusuk lelaki
Bukan dari kaki untuk dialasi
Bukan dari kepala untuk dijunjung
Tapi dekat di bahu untuk dilindung
Dekat jua di hati untuk dikasihi
Engkaulah wanita hiasan duniawi
-Dehearty-

Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a daripada Rasulullah S.A.W katanya, “Siapa yang beriman kepada Allah dan hari kemudian, ia tidak menyakiti jirannya. Berilah wasiat yang baik kepada perempuan, sesungguhnya mereka dijadikan daripada tulang-tulang rusuk, dan sesungguhnya yang bengkok daripada tulang rusuk itu ialah bahagian atasnya. Jika engkau meluruskannya pasti engkau memecahkannya (mematahkannya), jika engkau biarkan, ia akan terus bengkok. Oleh itu berilah wasiat yang baik kepada perempuan. ” - Riwayat Bukhari.

Comment by Ken 11.04.07 @ 11:06 pm

I totally agree with u one hundred percent la! dgn ngandung2 rasa loya, tak larat, penat dgn jaga anak lagi kita still tabahkan hati, kuatkan diri (super woman), org lelaki kalau selsema sket pun dah mcm nak pengsan..sebab tu Allah bagi orang pompuan yang bersalin, sebab lelaki sebenarnya tak boleh tahan sakit. pain treshold dia rendah. tak macam pompuan. scientifically proven. something to ponder, ey? ketereran pompuan berbanding lelaki..hehe. by the way, im 3 months preg, how far along are u?

Comment by Sheri Hafiz 11.14.07 @ 6:28 am

By the way blog ni tidak ditujukan kepada sapa2, cuma kenyataan secara general (kang ada orang ingat aku kutuk laki aku pulak)

Comment by Asnida 11.27.07 @ 9:40 pm

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